Today I wanted to share with everyone a book that really helped me out at a time when I needed a bit of direction in life. I think the world would be a much better place if EVERYBODY took the time to read this book. I treat it like a guide book, and re-read it when I feel like I am losing my way.
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz is a wonderful little book that helps you stop self-limiting behaviours, and can be used as a simple guide for your own personal code of conduct. It is graceful, beautifully written, and so honest. The four agreements seem so obvious once you have read them, that it feels like Don Miguel is just giving you a gentle reminder of how to carry yourself in the world, and reminding you of what is really important.
The four agreements are -
- Be impeccable with your words.
- Don't take anything personally.
- Don't make assumptions.
- Always do your best.
This book felt like it was written for me.
From the cover of the book:
Be Impeccable With Your Word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
Don't Take Anything Personally: Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.
Don't Make Assumptions: Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
Always Do Your Best: Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.
If you are like me, and you occasionally feel overwhelmed by the pressures of everyday life, and just need that little nudge to get your thought process back on track....this is the book for you! I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.